“When one ceases from conflict, whether
because he has won, because he has lost, or because he cares no more for the
game, the virtue passes out of him.” — Charles Horton Cooley

There are three concepts here that represent an unusual
juxtaposition: “conflict,” “the game,” and “virtue.” Robert Lynd said, “No
doubt there are other important things in life besides conflict, but there are
not many other things so inevitably interesting. The very saints interest us
most when we think of them as engaged in a conflict with the Devil.”
Conflict can certainly be interesting either as a participant or as an
observer; but “the game” and its relationship to “virtue” may be even more

The game must first offer real and present, win/lose
possibilities. If it doesn’t, the virtue passes out of you. More to the point,
an immediate possibility of losing is the key to virtue. Here, “virtue” is
doing what is right and avoiding what is wrong.

The virtuous person pursues winning while doing only what is
right. “Conflict” is, then, not the tension between winning and losing. Rather,
it’s the responsibility of “right” vs. the risk of “wrong.” The truly fatal
risk is not losing. It’s succumbing to the temptation to sacrifice one’s virtue
on the altar of success.

It’s tempting to put forth a few moral pronouncements about
right and wrong; but it’s your call. The take home point is simply that, if you
are a virtuous person, you know what’s right and understand what’s wrong. “The
game,” for you, is doing what’s right and avoiding what’s wrong, while playing
to win, every time. To do otherwise is to let the virtue pass out of you.