“It isn’t intellect that connects us to
other people; it is feeling.” — Charles Fowler


You are quick to respond if people become unhappy or upset. You
seldom ignore the feelings or reactions of other people. This is especially
true when those feelings or reactions are negative. That is when people are
most likely to disconnect or behave in unexpected ways, thus making it much
more difficult for you to predict events or manage the situation. This does not
mean that you necessarily change decisions or modifies circumstances to appease
people or to prevent their becoming upset. Rather, it means that you respond
immediately to the feelings and reactions. Whether they were anticipated or
not, the feelings and reactions are there and represent the current iteration
of reality for you. It’s the here-and-now and thus needs and gets your
immediate attention.