“People are always blaming their
circumstances for what they are. I don’t believe in circumstances. The people
who get on in this world are the people who get up and look for the
circumstances they want, and, if they can’t find them, make them.” — George
Bernard Shaw


You don’t typically take things personally. Of course,
occasionally things are intended to be personal and should be taken personally.
Normally, though, you separate the event from the motivations of the people.
Even though the event may have a negative effect for you, you understand that
this seldom means that anyone intended that effect specifically for you. The
payoff for you is twofold. First, you accurately understand what happened.
Second, you are more likely to accurately understand why it happened the way it
did. Avoiding inaccurate and complex motivation-based explanations enables you
to focus maximum attention on those circumstances that most likely account for
what actually happened.