“See first that the design is wise and
just; that ascertained, pursue it resolutely.” — William Shakespeare


You don’t use yourself as the standard for how others should
think and feel or how others should act. You do develop complex criteria that
apply to specific situations and circumstances and you generally conform to
those criteria. Here is the key. You conform to the criteria; but whether
others choose to use those criteria is their choice. If you think their
conforming is in their interest, you are clear about that. Still, the choice is
theirs.